Anila Hoxha tells the difficult story/ The father faces his wife and 7 daughters in court

2023-08-24 12:29:00, Kronika Anila Hoxha

Anila Hoxha tells the difficult story/ The father faces his wife and 7 daughters

Journalist Anila Hoxha has shared one of the cases of domestic violence, where a family head, his wife and 7 daughters born from their marriage appeared before the court today.

The journalist discovers that the violence in their family started after the father of the 7 girls did not want them to continue their education.

From this moment, violence and the first clashes between the two parents, who, according to the journalist, were both overworked to raise their children.

The 7 daughters, the wife and the head of the family appeared before the judge Majlinda Doga. The fierce conflict starts when one of the girls wants to continue her studies in Italy. Before the judge, the girl confessed that in the morning she saw her parents fighting and the father had slapped the mother.

" A difficult story to tell. I left my vacation after a phone call that informed me: tomorrow a mother with her seven daughters will appear before judge Majlinda Doga in Tirana. They are asking for a protection order from the head of the family because he does not accept that his daughters attend school .

When I was traveling to Tirana, I thought of every possible version. That of some I have encountered in court sessions, who rush to marry their daughters, broken by prejudice and weakness to let them be free in their lives. Until they choose for themselves.

The girls and I were the first to arrive. They were taken under the protection of the state.

In the end, they brought the father. A 44-year-old man, who was held by a policeman and his hands were handcuffed. He addressed the elder as soon as he met her in the corridor "daughter - he said, wherever you go you will be my daughter".

The couple got married in 2001. The couple was looking for a son and gave birth to seven daughters. After each pregnancy, the baby's cry seemed to announce again "I gave birth to a girl". However, the daughters did not disappoint father and mother, all with high results in school.

But the woman, with her eyes on the ground, answers the judge that although she married a devoted husband whom she helped in their private business, she had a weak voice to decide in the family. Is it as the girls stated to the police, that the father did not allow the schooling - asks the judge, who wants to be clear if it is a question of an economic fight and as a result the girls side with the mother.

The eldest daughter, now 20 years old, attends a well-known university in the capital, also the second. That's where they shine. The third was taken to attend high school and they live together. o they were getting ready to register the fourth one in the gymnasium. "I had to go to an intership in Italy, and the father, in an argument, declared no, you will not go," the eldest told the court. School is important to me, the young woman exclaims. The father answers "I was selling the house so that we could be together in Tirana, what did you miss?" With these hands I have made night day for you."

But the girls testify that when they woke up they saw their parents arguing. Then pushing with his hands. At one point, the father shouted "in this house it will be done as I say". They came in to separate and he shot one of them with a slap ," Anila Hoxha confesses.

Në vijim të kësaj, gazetarja Anila Hoxha zbulon se situata kishte dalë nga kontrolli për shkak se kryefamiljari nuk kishte mundësi të merrte një apartament në kryeqytet dhe se i duhej të merrte kredi. Këtu nis dhe dhuna, ku babai jo vetëm kishte rrahur bashkëshorten por edhe vajzën.

"Kur situata doli krejt nga kontrolli, vajzat i thonë gjyqatres se i rreshtoi dhe i pyeti “ a doni të shkoni në Tiranë, ikni”.

“Ky ishte momenti kur babai doli nga shtëpia. Edhe për mua shkolla është e rëndësishme, edhe për motrat e mia- I thotë gjyqtares vajza tjetër. Është e dyta që ndjek si e motra një universitet privat. Pranon që cdo javë babai dhe nëna udhëtonin nga qyteti i tyre për ti takuar e për tu kujdesur.

Por familja duhej bërë bashkë. E shtëpia duhej shitur. Por babait ja kërkuan shumë lirë shtëpinë ku ato u rritën, dhe ai nuk po e shiste dot me një cmim të arsyeshëm. Këtu do hyja në kredi, sepse me aq para nuk plotësohej çmimi i një apartamenti në kryeqytet” – përpiqet ti shpjegojë të shoqes se në prani të gjyqatres.

Por ai ishte aq nervoz saqë u bë agresiv dhe rrahu të shoqen.Pastaj të bijën. Pastaj ato u larguan në Tiranë", vijon më tej historia.

Pas ardhjes në Tiranë dhe pas dhunës nëna me vajzat nuk i kishin treguar vendndodhjen babait, pasi kishin frikë se modh i dhunonte, të paktën kështu kanë rrëfyer para gjyqtares. Nëna dhe 7 vazjat e kishin denoncuar për dhuna në familje dhe sapo babi kishte mbërritur në Tiranë për ti kërkuar ishte arrestuar nga policia. Nëna me 7 vajzat kishin kërkuar urdhër-mbrojtje nga policia.

"Kur u kthye , ai shkoi në policinë lokale , e cila telefonoi gruan e megjithatë gruaja thotë“ nuk i tregova se ku gjendeshim mbasi kisha frikë prej tij”.

Nga data 22 gusht , kryefamiljari udhëtoi për në Tiranë, i kërkoi dhe nuk i gjeti. Shkoi sërisht në polici për të njoftuar ku dhe u arrestua mbasi ishte denoncuar për dhunë në familje nga bashkëshortja dhe të bijat.

“Unë kërkoj urdhër mbrojtjeje – thotë gruaja e tij, nëna e fëmijëve . Kishim vendosur ti shkollonim vajzat në kryeqytet mbasi këtu shkollat janë më të mira se atje ku jetojmë, por ai ndërron vazhdimisht mendje. Kërkoj urdhër mbrojtjeje edhe për vajzat tona. Ai mbulon fytyrën me pëllëmbët plot kallo dhe shpërthen në të qara.

"I've endured a lot, I can't endure anymore - the 42-year-old explains in a choked voice" The court decides the husband escaped to prison, the mother and her seven daughters are sent to a shelter. What is the truth? Both parents' hands were full of calluses. They raised seven daughters together, and all seven need to be educated.

Photo 1. The man arrested in court today, August 24

Photo 2. The eight whistleblowers", writes Anila Hoxha.

This is a difficult story to tell, according to the journalist, because as she describes, both parents seem overworked to raise their children./ CNA