Why couples in Japan don't say "I love you"

2023-08-18 22:53:00, Kuriozitete CNA

Why couples in Japan don't say "I love you"

Tokyo may have given the world some of the most romantic photos, with couples posing in front of endless cherry blossoms every spring, but the Japanese don't say the romantic phrase "I love you."

According to a survey, only 45% of men in their 20s and 30s have said the word "I love you" at least once in their lives. As for their female peers, 64% prefer the word "Suki" (I like) instead of the word "Aishiteru" (I love you) when expressing their feelings towards their partner.

This is one of the reasons why when Princess Mako's husband Kei Komuro said "I love you" to her in public in 2021, most Japanese people saw the gesture as strange and melodramatic.

But why do the Japanese avoid saying "I love you"?

1. They prefer to express themselves indirectly. They believe that the beauty of language lies in what is implied. That's why even after a failed date they can send a message like "See you again sometime" instead of directly rejecting the other person. The same goes for expressions of love. For example, instead of making an obvious marriage proposal, a Japanese man might ask his girlfriend to cook him miso soup every day.

2. They believe that if there is good chemistry between two people, words are unnecessary. They think that a truly happy couple can read the other's mind and understand feelings without expressing them clearly.

3. The word "love" does not carry the same weight in the Japanese vocabulary.  For a Japanese person, it would be redundant to use the corresponding word for love.

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