How parents should behave when children fight with each other

2023-08-11 15:34:00, Sociale Lira Gjika

How parents should behave when children fight with each other

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We often see children fighting with each other, especially when there is an age difference, but also between peers, as well as between siblings or siblings and siblings.

These fights between children should neither be ignored nor exaggerated. Children are learning how to build relationships with each other, controlling their feelings. They are learning to control their anger when they do not feel well or the other's action does not suit them.

They are learning and building boundaries of actions and words they may or may not use. They are learning that when they exceed the right, they must ask for forgiveness and, when they lose in the game, they don't have to be upset.

So they are building and learning the ethics of communicating with others, through words or anger and force. An important factor in this growth and learning process is the attitude and behavior of adults.

If the adult looks for the culprit, who has upset the other or the youngest, it only does harm. Unwittingly, he almost turns the children against each other.

The adult should show the children the positive sides when the children were calm and played with each other or when the boy or girl, who are angry for the moment, helped or gave something that made them happy. Or the child who has been violent and disrupted the game, calming him down, is asked to apologize and is told tactfully that they are friends, sisters and brothers and together they are learning to become adults.

Being an adult means not misbehaving with others. When you don't feel calm, you can walk away until you calm down and then you can continue the game or hang out.

The adult tells him that he too, when he was their age, did the same thing, that is, he used to fight or cry when he fought with his friends or brother or sister, but slowly, thanks to his parents, educators and teachers, he learned and understood that they were equally immature and they were learning how to be as patient as possible with themselves and others in order to be good friends and siblings and not strangers.

People who fight or misbehave with others are people who have not developed the ability to grow up. Parents and adults, when children fight, don't look for the culprit, but help them calm down and understand that they are learning how to build relationships with each other.

How to control their emotions and how to cope with them. When you don't know how to help, don't interfere between them. If you have a little patience, you will see that in a little while, they will resume on their own to approach each other and play again.