How parents should react to children's whims

2023-12-28 15:49:00, Sociale Lira Gjika

When a child sees a "thing", especially when another child has it, he wants it too. Then, as soon as you take it for a few minutes and you don't want it anymore, you leave it at that.

Meanwhile, an experiment was done by scientists, who took a group of children and gave the same toy to each one.

The children, without looking at their toy, asked to take the other's toy, and after taking it after a few minutes, they showed no interest in either the other's toy or their own.

This experiment showed that children love and covet other people's things, but once they get to know them, they lose interest, so the new thing or the other person's thing is not long-lasting or gives them any great pleasure.

In these situations when the child asks for something by crying, the adult must be patient, assess the situation and then act. A child's request is not fulfilled just because the child cries. The adult with comforting words and calmness even though the child screams, endures and does not fulfill every request.

Often behind these requests of the child can be hidden an anxiety or a problem that requires care.

In the child's well-being, yes and no are very important. The child needs both, so that tomorrow he becomes an adult who values ??himself, life and others.

The calmness of the adult, his behavior and patience, shows and teaches the child that we can't have it all and moreover that we don't need it all to continue playing and having fun.

Be careful, parents, when you fill everything to your child out of impatience because he is bothering you, you do nothing but not allow the construction of some "boundaries" necessary for him to be able to distinguish the values ??of life and himself when he is an adult.

The child really loves toys, but also discovers the behavior of the parent, how he does it with care, with love or if he gets annoyed or loses patience.