Signs that you are depressed

2023-12-26 23:00:00, Sociale CNA

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There are certain signs, certain thoughts that reveal that not everything is going as well as we would like to think about ourselves. Certain signs indicate that we are plunged into despair, but we insist on hiding it.

Complete disconnection

You have lost touch with what matters to you. You feel disoriented about your values ??and the direction of your life. You have lost your meaning and purpose, you feel disconnected from what is important to you.

The gap

There is a gap between what you want and what you have, between what you are and what you want to be. While this kind of emptiness isn't necessarily bad, it can be a motivator for change and growth, yet it can also be incredibly stressful, exacerbating despair and pessimism about life itself.

You charge negative thoughts

When you are under stress and trying to explain what is happening to you and why, you tend to choose all the negative and pessimistic explanations your mind can think of and value them as the only explanations available.

Destructive behaviors

To escape dark thoughts and control your bad mood, you turn to certain stereotyped behaviors to distract you from them, from shopping and gambling to abusing food, alcohol, drugs or tobacco, and in most cases bad you try to hurt yourself.

The cycle of despair

You get stuck in a vicious circle where temporarily relieving your misery with the above means inevitably ends up leaving you in the same or worse psychological state.

Thoughts

You are convinced that in order to move forward you need to get rid of your resentment, replace negative thoughts with "right" positive ones. You assume that the "normal" human state is happiness, and you're probably wrong somewhere, and it's your fault that you're not happy. And this way of thinking locks you in a vicious circle that makes the situation progressively worse.

Steps of change

The first step may seem very simple to us and we've probably heard or read it somewhere before, but it's true and effective: it's important to have self-compassion.

The second step requires you to honestly assess how beneficial your gloomy thoughts are to your development.

Don't try to control your worry and sadness. Change them like magic. This is not possible. Accept your situation and take small steps in the direction you want. This approach will help you.

Remember that you are not defined by your thoughts. You should not be controlled by the dark voices of your mind. You write the story of your life, and in that story you are the protagonist, not the victim./ CNA